When is it ok for a woman to cheat on their partner? Can women be monogamous? When is cheating ok?
Two weeks ago, I wrote about men cheating. Because of the overwhelming about of emails I received about it, I decided I would write about women who cheat because many people were interested to know what my results would find. So two weeks later, I have had a small amount of time to compile some interesting results.
Because I gave myself only 2 weeks, I only spoke to 18 girls from Sydney who have cheated on their partners. I asked a total of 45 random girls if they had cheated on their partner at some stage in their/a relationship. Less then half came back saying they had.
For some reason, I think a 3rd of them were to ashamed to admit they had – but I can’t assume!
Of these 45 girls, 2 of them are lesbians. The 18 that cheated were all heterosexual, single, had a boyfriend or married and 1 of them was engaged.
Of these 18 cheating girls, I got some great feedback here are the questions, statistics and some answers I got:
• What was your reason for cheating on your partner?
- 2 Girls: “Boredom”
- 3 Girls: “He works long hours and works weekends”
- 6 Girls: “I had a feeling he was sleeping with another girl(s), so I’m just getting him back”
- 7 Girls: “I’m not really sure why, it was a moment of weakness. I regret doing it”
• Did you tell your partner you cheated on them?
- 18 Girls: “No”
• Do you regret cheating on your partner?
- 3 Girls: “Not really, he deserved it”
- 15 Girls: “Of course I do”
• Would you ever do it again?
- 6 Girls: “I don’t think I would, no”
- 12 Girls: “Who knows, I may, I may not. Ideally I wouldn’t like to, but it depends on the situation”
• Were you angry, stressed or frustrated with your partner when you cheated?
- 1 Girl: “No, but I was drunk and he was away with his friends”
- 17 Girls: “Yes”
• During intercourse with the other guy, did you think of your partner or the ramifications of your actions if they were to come out?
- 1 Girl: “What is a ramifications? But no, I didn’t think of him”
- 8 Girls: “Yes I thought of him, but I didn’t care because I was angry with him. It almost made me enjoy it more”
- 9 Girls: “No, I didn’t think of him. I was able to cut myself away from the situation”
These statistics really confused me. I’m not sure if women can be as monogamous as men? Women claim they are, but are they?
You you were going to look at it, without look at the questions above and looking at the overall number, 18 of 45 women is still quite high. But it does go to show that women can be just as open to cheating as men.
Their excuses and reason behind doing what they did were alot tamer then the ones of the men. The men had no shame in admitting they cheated and why they did it. The women don’t seem proud of what they did. Nor should they. That goes for men too.
It’s also interesting to see how many of the women did it because of the actions of the man. The men almost did not make reference to them doing it because of the affects of their partner. Another point – the lesbians seem to be quite loyal to eachother.
It constantly interests me, why people cheat, how they cheat and how they feel after doing it. My research will never stop on getting to understand why we as humans do this – whether we like to think we do or not.
